9 Tips on How To Manage Your Feelings And Emotions

Do you ever struggle with how to manage your feelings and emotions, or maybe even struggle to recognize when you’re having a strong feelings, such as frustration, disappointment, or anger until you’ve reached the point of boiling over?

Well, if that sounds like you then you’ll want to check this out this info because I’m going to share some tips with you that can help you with managing these. (If you prefer to “watch” instead of “read” then check out my video below instead. 😉)

If you’ve ever struggled with managing your emotions and managing your feelings, then odds are, there’s likely a good reason. We, as a society, really don’t do a great job at demonstrating the need an importance of managing our emotions.

I think more often than not, the overarching viewpoint is to just “ignore” the emotions. And frankly, that’s the worst thing you can do…more on this in a bit.

First, I want you to think back when you were a child, when you fell down and you got a scrape or a booboo, you probably had a parent there that either would come rushing to your side and would make a big deal about it and tell you, Oh, it’s going to be okay. Then, they probably gave you a hug.

They would come in and probably check on you if they were a really attentive parent or if you were just a young kid, but even if you had a parent that maybe just checked on you every once in a while, odds are they still were checking on you to make sure that you were feeling okay.

That was their way of soothing us as kids. And maybe you do that for your own kids now.

 

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But when you become an adult, you reach a point where you actually have to learn to soothe yourself. In order to do this, first we have to understand that we’re even having emotions that are in need of soothing. Sometimes, given the way that society is, you don’t want to overreact or seem like you are blowing things out of proportions.

And sometimes that can cause actually cause us to suppress the feelings we’re having without even really realizing that we’re doing it. We’re just trying to stay in control really.

So it’s important to know how to recover from something that happens….whether it is a mental, emotional, or a physical fall. And sometimes leaning on a friend or a family member can help with this, but odds are at some point, you’re going to find yourself in a situation where you have to rely on yourself to recognize that these emotions are happening and be able to calm down and self soothe.

So what do you do?

Here are nine tips that can help with how to manage feelings and emotions:

 

1. (And this is a BIG one) Acknowledge your feelings.

Say to yourself, “I’m hurt because of what happened today” or, “I feel sad because my relationship isn’t going well.” Recognize that you’re going through a rough spot right now.

So many times we stuff down our emotions and we don’t even recognize the fact that we’re even having them. You’d be surprised how many times that happens.

Heck, I can’t even tell you how many times I’ve done this, and continue to do it to a point. I think I’m doing great and then suddenly, I just reach a point where I’m about to hit a wall and just lose it and start yelling……and that’s because the way we get to that point is actually by avoiding and not recognizing or acknowledging these feelings.

Sometimes we may think as a society that just avoiding the emotions is going to take care of it. But that’s not the case at all.

Avoidance is going to make things much worse. It’s going to make the feelings compound. And it’s going to build on top until you explode and you don’t know what to do, or you don’t even know where that anger or that frustration came from when it was a seemingly small thing like your husband leaving the toilet seat up.

But all of a sudden you’re like losing it. It’s all because you’ve not been managing those emotions of anger or frustration up to that point.

So that’s why the FIRST thing learning how to manage feelings and emotions is to make sure that you acknowledge the feelings that you’re having.

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2. Ask yourself: “What can I do to get through this emotion or situation and feel better?”

What can you do to calm down? Can you take some deep breaths? Can you go for a walk, but just ask yourself, “what can I do”

 

3. Think of a hobby or an activity that you enjoy doing and plan to do that for a few minutes each day.

Maybe that hobby is reading and maybe you don’t have a ton of time to read, but then just take 5, 10, 15 minutes to read something that you enjoy.

Hopefully it’s some sort of good book that you’re reading. I would say don’t go on social media because this can spiral and lead you down a negative direction. Find a good book.

Or if you enjoy reading comic books or something like that, just something to distract you in a healthy manner. And that will help you to calm down as well.

Shoot for an hour if you can, but whatever time you can afford is time that will help.

Making time, even just a little bit each day, is important because it helps to manage those emotions and that stress in little bits and keep it from compounding and compiling on itself.

 

4. Give yourself an outlet to manage those feelings and emotions.

Whether it’s something like journaling or calling a friend it doesn’t matter, but give yourself some sort of outlet to be able to express those emotions.

Journaling is a great thing to be able to do because you can just write down all the thoughts that you’re having. Set a timer. And then once the timer is done, you can go ahead and move on, but it helps to just get it out of your head.

 

5. Let yourself cry.

I know that a lot of times this can be difficult and we want to hold in those tears, but there is actually science showing that when you cry, you release toxins from your body and even release some of the stress hormones including cortisol and adrenaline.

So it is very good for you physically to cry. You are probably only going to be crying for a minute or two maybe a little longer, or maybe it’s only like 30 seconds and crying is a normal human expression of feelings.

Crying cleanses you emotionally and helps you to let go of sadness, anger, guilt, and many other feelings. Afterward, you feel some relief and can more easily move on with your day.

 

6. Grab yourself some tea or coffee and just sit and reflect.

Have a couple of minutes of peace…..but a word of caution here, when it comes to anything food-related take care note to make this the norm. You don’t want to rely on food frequently for self soothing because that can lead to obesity and other health issues.

Coffee or tea is generally safe. Or you can even grab a water.

You could be surprised to discover that part of the intense emotions could be due to some dehydration. Dehydration does all sorts of crazy things to the body.

So just try and sit down, take a couple of minutes and have yourself a drink and a little bit of quiet time.

 

7. Allow yourself to have fun with others if possible.

Playing tennis, going swimming, going for a hike, whatever you enjoy is fine. Try to have someone join in with you, if you’re going on a hike or obviously playing tennis. If it’s something like swimming, of course you can do that alone, but having someone else there is more beneficial.

Plus getting in that little bit of exercise helps as well.

 

8. Tell yourself, “I’m going to be okay.”

Tell yourself, “this is going to make me stronger and smarter after I get through this situation.” Not only will saying this out loud help, but this also helps to start to shift your way of thinking to turn that negative into a positive.

 

9. Make a conscious decision to move on.

Tell yourself that you’re ready to let go and leave the challenging situation behind you. If you have resolved the issue within yourself, then you’ll be able to let it go.

So give yourself time to feel it, and then move on, give yourself time to allow the emotions to set in and to recognize it.

Learning to manage your emotions and feelings by way of self-soothing is an important part of living a healthy adult life. Practice these suggestions when you recognize that you feel upset, hurt or disappointed. Take responsibility for soothing yourself through any challenging situation.

I hope that is helpful for you. If you would like a more structured format on managing your emotions and particularly releasing any stress or anxiety that you may then pick up my free guide, “The Mama Calmer,” by clicking the button below. It is a four minute quick and easy framework to ease stress and anxiety instantly so that you can be the bad-ass supermom that you are and get back to focusing on and enjoying what matters most.

 

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Shoot me an email. Let me know how you like it once you pick it up. I can’t wait to hear from you!

And in the event you discover you need some additional assistance in calming and self-soothing, consider contacting a professional to get some extra support through the process. In time, you’ll learn to soothe yourself and take care of your own feelings.

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Until next time, 

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