Hi, I’m Kristin Nicole!
I provide sensitive women, who tend to keep their feelings hidden, with a safe space to show up exactly as they are, build confidence, self-love, and self-compassion without fear of judgement, shame, or guilt even if they aren’t able to express themselves to others.
I am so glad to meet you, and I can't wait to help you.
But if you are like most, you are probably wondering why?
Well, to understand my passion, you need to understand my past.
This is my story.
Part 1 - Life Before
Having kids changed my life.
It has taught me so much, especially the importance of caring NOT JUST for another human being, BUT ALSO for myself. After all, HOW could I really care for my littles to the BEST of my ability otherwise?
But before having my babies, I didn’t worry about my emotional health or self-care. I was stressed, anxious, angry, and generally miserable most of the time (though I didn’t outwardly show it).
I always focused my energy externally. I focused on what other people thought I should be and what other people thought I should want…..for as far back as I can remember.
This was the start of my anxiety.
I can actually date my anxiety back to when I was 6 years old. My mom would tell me it was time for bed, and immediately, I would feel sick to my stomach. The idea of having to go to school the next day made me nauseous. It got so bad, in fact, that I even slept with a bucket next to my bed because I felt so sick.
Of course I didn’t know it back then, and I couldn’t give it a name, but after having my son, and starting into talk therapy, I quickly put the pieces together that what I had been feeling all of those years ago was anxiety, and it didn’t stop there.
I always wondered what was wrong with me. Why was I so shy? So scared of people? Why was it so hard for me when it seemed so easy for others? Why did I take things so personally?
Truthfully, though, I never had a reason to dig into the why. Sure I wondered, but I had settled into the “devil I knew” and never bothered to try to understand where these internal questions and feelings came from.
But I’d be lying if I said I never contemplated if the world would be better off without me in it. Frankly, though, I figured that everyone else was like me…..asking themselves the same questions…..but they were just better at handling it all.
Regardless of the reason, I never tried to change it. I just accepted what was and dealt with the misery.
Part 2 - Life After
After my son was born, I had this lingering fear....
....I didn't want my past to become his future. I didn’t want him to be so stressed and anxious that he didn’t enjoy life.
As any mother would, I just wanted a better life for him.....a better experience. I also realized that in order to REALLY take care of him, I needed to take better care of myself.
Yes, through several happenings, I had come to learn that I couldn’t really be there for him fully if I didn’t pay attention to what my body needed, but the DRIVING FACTOR was that I didn’t want to pass my stress and anxiety tendencies on to him…..
.....I knew that the way that I dealt with my emotions and stress was sure to impress upon him leading him down the same road. That thought terrified me.
I HAD to learn better ways of coping and dealing with the stressors that life throws at me, and I knew I had to SET THE EXAMPLE and provide positive outlets for him to be able to live a happier life.…..it was really my only option.
So I started therapy, first with talk therapy, and then moving to another called DBT (dialectal behavioral therapy). In was in the pre-screening for DBT that I discovered what had really been going on with me.
I didn't just have anxiety......and depression.
No, what I actually had was something called borderline personality disorder, or bpd (on top of the fact that I am also a highly sensitive person or HSP).
Let me just say that I hate that term, bpd. It makes it sound like I have multiple personalities but it's nothing like that.
I would say it's more accurate to call what I have "complex post-traumatic stress disorder," which is one of many terms that have been considered to replace the term bpd. Though it has yet to officially be renamed.
The best way I describe it to those who aren't familiar with the disorder is this:
I lack the protective emotional skin to feel comfortable in the world. Like a third degree burn victim, I have no outer protection to help me get through those times when the sh*t really hits the fan.....or even when it doesn't.
Luckily, though, through therapy and many other techniques that I've learned and changes that I've implemented, it has been possible to change my life to one that is calmer, happier, and more joyful.
Therapy was my jumping off point, but much of my big shift has come from studying mindfulness, meditation, holistic nutrition, and so much more.
Now I am happier, calmer, and more emotionally “fit” than I have ever been and I am passing those practices onto my kids (we've also welcomed a baby girl since my journey for wellness began) too!
Life is hard, and I can’t change that for my kids, but what I can do is teach them and demonstrate ways to properly handle the inevitable stressors of life. And I can teach them how to build that protective skin.....because I have learned how to do it myself.
Am I cured, no. Has my life done a 180? Absolutely.
It is possible to heal......yes it takes time......and it's constantly a work in progress (like alcoholism - sobriety is something that you have to constantly work at). But you can become the calmer, happier, joyful, and more zenful mama that you so long and DESERVE to be.
Part 3 - My Vision for YOU
As a mom who battles bpd and emotional sensitivity, I personally know the struggles you endure on a daily basis.
After finding the right kind of help, and making some very specific life changes, I can now say that my life is absolutely one that is worth living.
My goal is to help YOU achieve the SAME by providing you with the best information possible to help you make the best decisions for YOU (and your family’s) health and wellness.
Why? Well 1 - because I know what you’re going through and 2 - because there’s a lot of garbage marketing out there misguiding you purely for the sake of sales.....and I find that to be absolutely disgusting.
After the birth of my son, I became extremely aware of the major issues and companies that stand in the way of accurate and truthful information. I wanted to get the word out to other mamas, particularly mamas with bpd, because I KNOW how you WORRY....and because when it comes to your and your family’s health, nothing is more important.
That’s why I have made it my mission to help other mamas who battle similar demons by providing you with highly researched, well-thought out information, in addition to sharing the path that I've taken which has allowed me to heal.... so that you can achieve your happiness and calm too.
GOOD, RELIABLE health and wellness information shouldn’t be that difficult. But I’ve only scratched the surface on what I can do to help you build a life worth living.
You deserve HAPPINESS and PEACE and I know I can help you achieve this.
It's because of you that I became a wellness strategist focused on helping you find your happiness, your calm, your emotionally “fitness”, your zen, your joy.......your wellness. And as any good mama knows, this isn't just about you, it's about your littles too. If you can’t show your littles how to be calm and happy too then WHO WILL?
Having bpd or an emotional sensitivity may be a part of you but it doesn’t DEFINE you.
Let me say that again.....bpd and emotional sensitivity does NOT DEFINE YOU. I specifically don’t capitalize the abbreviation of this disorder for that very reason. You absolutely can turn things around for yourself. I did it. And I know you can do it as well.
So reach out to me by whichever method of communication you prefer - text, email, messenger, here on my website, or a good old fashioned phone call!
Wellness is within your grasp. All you have to do is make the decision to contact me so that I can help you achieve health, wellness, and piece of mind that you are making the best choices possible for you and your family.
I can help you to become the JOYFUL ZEN MAMA that I know you can be, all you have to do is let me.
From the bottom of my heart, thank you for allowing me to serve you.
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What I Value...
Family - My family is the most important thing in the world to me. Improving the world and the lives of those in it is a close second.
Time Freedom - Life is too short to spend so much of it away from those that you love.....doing things that don’t really make you happy. It’s too short not to enjoy every possible minute to the best of our ability. Does that mean that always happen? Of course not, but that is the goal! There’s a great big world out there and I’d much rather be experiencing it now rather than longing for the day when I can.
Transparency and Trust - There’s a lot of misinformation and misrepresentation out there. In an era where we spend more time updating our online profile, and creating a persona, or the image of a life that we want, rather than improving the one we are living, transparency and “realness” are key. We, as consumers, face an unprecedented amount of misinformation these days. That is why I promise you that I will do my homework and provide the most transparent information possible - because being able to make an informed decision allows us to take control of our lives and improve the lives of our loved ones.
Morality, Integrity, Honesty - I believe in doing the right thing, even if it’s not the easy thing. I believe in telling the truth, providing valuable information that can improve the lives of others, and not skewing information to fit a purpose - see above for transparency and trust 😉
FUN - Because what is life without fun?!?!
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